78 Midnight Howls

Communication of any kind is important but in relationships especially, communication holds a great wight. In my opinion communication represents exchange of thought, emotion and energy. Because we identify communication mostly as speech we tend to close other comunication paths of. 

 Communicate every day                             

I cannot praise enough about communicating every single day. Have that five minute talk if that is all the tme you have in a day.  Is  something that your partner said bothering you. Ask them why they said that, and then explore why did you get hurt by what they said. Express to them that you felt hurt. Allow them to express aswell. It's important that mutual communication occurs. As I said before don't expect someone to read your mind. I think that a big part of communication is vulnerability. Being vulnerable enought to express. Being vulnerable enough to empathise and understand.

Say what you mean,  mean what you say                                                                                              I think that a lot of us don't say things as they are, for alot of different reasons. But when it comes to dealing with stuff there is nothing more unhelpful than sugar coating things. Sometimes you just need a kick in the ass. Getting real with yourself and with person your in relationship with. You have to get to the point of things eventually, and why make it a strugle for yourself. Sometimes saying the truth feels like hurting and it can be, I don't say that it isn't. But  that harsh truth can give us the push we need to make some change, and  move things around.  

No words just actions                                                                                                             Expressing what you think or feel through actions can have even greater impact than expressing those same thoughts and emotions through speach. Sometimes it's enough to hug someone instead of telling them 'I love you'. What happens a lot is that people have tough time expressing their emotions physically. And quite often when that happens in relationships you'll have a partner who assumes you don't care for them. This happens because of difference in love language and lack of communication. For this reason I want you to explore 5 love languages.  Communication through actions adds to the level of connectin to oneself and other people. 

Hello love, want to find love this valentine's day right ? So where do you start. First place that I would search is yourself. You can only ever find true love for others if you first find true love for yourself. Now that sounds so easy right ? If you've ever researched about this topic of  self love, you'll know that it can be tricky and complicated. I decided to make it easy for you, at least make the beginging easy so you can slip into this shues of self love as easely as possible. First we have to determine what we are searching for, and that is love.

Love is the highest vibration there is. From Sources perspective love is the highest vibration there is. And therefore Source holds that highest vibration, and in esence is that love vibration. 

Word love is used for  such a plethora of things, it's normal we get confused about it. It can be the word used to represent feeling states, attitudes, pleasures, or strong affections felt for any number of things from romantic attachments to sexual attachments to platonic attachments.  In esence love is as simple as it can be, but we have made it complicated to ourselves. Right now I want you to make love simple, understandable and achievable to yourself.

The idea of 5 love languages  comes from Dr. Gary Chapman  who's marriage counselor and director of marriage seminars.  5 love languages are basicly groups in which each one of us fals as a love being.  Understanding your love language and  love language of people in your life could reveal  love in places you didn't think love exsisted.

Besides  exploring  feelings of love, we have many more emotions that we explore. Those emotions are our signals as to what is happening in our mind. They can be used a s guides to our happines and if ignored to our unhappiness aswell. We will be following emotions in order to get to where we want to go. Our emotions express themselves through manny different ways. Your task will be finding out how you experience emotions in your body and psyche.  If your intune with yourself you probably know how your emotions feel. But for alot of us, we find it hard to diiscover just how our emotions actually feel in our body. So I want you to explore ways in which you can sense your emotions.

There has a been a over praise about journaling. Well good things are always the most popular, right? There is no such thing as taking a peace of paper and a pen and a just spilling your guts out. No matter which way you record your thoughts and emotions   you will get same results, the important  things is that you do actually record them. You may choose to tape yourself on a phone or your compuer, go crazy do what resonates with you.  What I would recommend is that you try to record yourslef at least once a day or if you can do it, twice. First thing in the morning and the last thing at night.  Here are some suggested questions you can answer at each season:

Morning: How do I feel ? What do I want to accomplish today ?  What are three things that I can do today that will make me happy today?

Evening:  How did my day go? How do I feel about today? What did I accomplish today?  Things that I'm grateful for about today?  How did love show up in my life today? 

Be present with you emotions

Be present with your emotions, sounds real easy right? Well it can be bloody hard at first. But once you start, you will feel refreshed and lighter and more inspired.  This is a process that requires your full commitment.  Right here and now I will give you an exercise that you can do right away. Give this exercise a shot every day if you can.

First I want you to close your eyes and relax. You can get into meditation pose,  you can stand, lay down or whatever works for you.  I want you to be as still as possible. Let yourself be open to anything that comes to you, try not to engage with any thoughts that come to you. 

One thing that helped me was imagining your thoughts to be clouds on the sky and you allowing them to flow and just observing them. Or imagining that your thoughts are leaves floating on a river stream and your are bserving them pass by you. Make sure that if you get any sensations or emotions in your body you remember them for latter. Pay attention to feelings that rise up and how your body responds to them. Don't try to change them just allow them to be there. 

If your ego starts giving you thoughts repeat the first part of releasing emotioins into clouds or them being leaves on a river stream. Once you think you have done enought of  this work open your eyes. 

If you want you can check how has your mood and emotion changed or shifted.  This will clarify your senses and with practice you will be able to recognize you emotions and thus follow what suits you best.

Other thing you can do to keep track of your emotions is write in your jurnal. You can check  a bit that I have writen on journaling  int his little bundle of joy.

Shadow work is something that can not be unacknowledged. Shadow work has become an essential part of self exploration. Eaven do it is feared  by many it holds an important place in our lives.  Shadow work has become a stigmatised thing in todays world.  In all it's simplicity shadow work is a proces of bringing unconscious into the light of conscious. You will find that there are many ideas and thereby, many tecniques that can be used.  I will be sharing some tips and tricks from my favoirite teachers in this feald in seperate blog post.  Some simple things that you can do or use, as a part of your shadow work may include universally  known journal work, meditations, 

Intentional decision making, Pattern discovery, Tarot cards, oracle cards, rituals…

If you are or a planning to be in relationship and you recognize a pattern that is happening in every relationship you are in, I want you to do this. 

Get yourself into a position that is comfortable and close your eyes. Now allow that pattern to play like a movie in front of you. See what emotions, sensations or thoughts come up and note them somewhere after your done, or have someone with you who will write all that is happening. See the parts of pattern you may have not seen untill now and acknowledge them. See what emotions rise up and  how they feel in your body how do they come into play, question them.  

What does this emotion mean to me? How does this emotion feel in my body ? What thoughts does this emotion cause me to think? Exc… Do the same with any thoughts and sensation in your body.

Some of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself are:

What  emotions is this experience  causing  me to feel ?

What thoughts is this experience causing me to think ?

What does this expereince mean to me ?

What is the positive intention behind this (negative) experience?

There is much more you can explore, this is only a starter in this feald, something to explain what shadow work is and a start for you. I would recomend exploring some more information before you start with shadow work. It can be tricky and at times it will be difficult and  it is best you know what you are signing up for.  You will find that ego can sometimes be a big block just beacuse of how it's designed and beacuse of it's purpose, that is something you explore aswell.

 

One thing that I've included in journaling area is gratitude practice. Journaling can be included as place to express your gratitude.  One of the things that you can do is a love letter to self.  I will be including one of my personal love letters  at the end of this peace. Writing a love letter is terapeutic and freeing. Declare love to yourself, declare gratitude to appreciation. 

 Other exercise I want to present you with is gratitude  reflection. Every time you go by a miror I want you to find one thing that you think is great about you. Something you are gratefull you have on yur body. Is it your eyes, your hair, the way you walk, the way you speak, exc... It can as big or as small as you wish it to be. It's up to you.   

Everyone loves gifts. That is one things that proves someone is loving you 100% You feel love and cared for when someone gives you a gift and tells you 'I love you'.Why wouldn't you treat yourself with something amazing from time to time ? You know that you deserve love, so why not get it. There is nothing bad it treating yourself with something you enjoy.  Treat yourself, love yourself.

Dear self,

I don't need to tell you how many times I've spoken of doing things for you, but never did. 

And I don't need to tell how many times I've believed that your not good enough.  You know that I love you for being this weirdly funy person. I love you for being someone who is able to be around people. To feel their touch, to heat their voice, to see their true divine spark. I love you for how you carry yourself throug the world, for the way you burst into laughter all the time. I love you for the way your hair falls when your not trying to make it perfect. I love you for being here with me. 

I Love you for giving me support and strenght. I love you for giving me opportuniti to experience this magic world and all that is of it. I choose to listen to you from now on. Choose to cherish you. I choose to appreciate you. I choose to love you. I choose to be you here and now! 

Hello,

My name is Goran, and I'm a tarot reader, artist and explorer.  I am based in the north part of Croatia. On an edge of a forest, surrounded by nature and wildlife.  Growing up sorounded by nature I would always draw trees, plants and animals.  I took art as something I could create my life around in high school and here I am since then. Tarot came in my life a bit latter. It was after the summer of 2012 that I discovered the world of cards. And fell in love. I've been slinging cards ever since. Not a day goes by that the cards aren't in my hands. That is my life, full of tarot cards, wonder, myst and occasional color spill.  I invite you to partake in my journey and share this wonderous experience!

5 Personal tarot fundamentals

Hello loves,

There is alot to consider when you decide to do tarot publicly for clients. Most of the things come up with time and as you grow, but there are some things you may want to consider before you start reading. This post is long anyhow so lets just begin.

1. Define what kind of readings you will be doing-  It's important to know yourself as a reader. 

What kind of readings you want to do, and what  readigs you would rather avoid?  

Do you want to do future teling? Or do you want to do more spiritually oriented readings? 

Will you include other card systems in your readings (Oracle cards, Affirmation cards, Lenormand, exc…)? These are all questions you may want to ask yourself if you haven't already. 

Once you know yourself  as a reader you can grow with your cards.

2.  Boundaries-  This ties in with the previous point. Once you have defiend yourself as reader it is up to you if you follow what you have set down to do  or not. If you find yorself in a situation where you are asked to do a reading but you don't feel that the reading would do any good, what will you do? 

If a client who is paying askes you to do a reading that goes against you code of ethic, will you make an exception and read, or will you explain what kind of readings you are doing, and recommend different reader? If a client has an answer he wants to hear, but the cards suggest something else, will you go with what the client wants, or will go with what the cards are saying?

3.  Objectivity- There will be times when you will feel tempted to give suggestions based on your opinion. Tarot reader should show what  possibilities at hand are, and let the person who is getting the reding decide. We can give ponters and tips based on cards. If you are ment to say something you will know it, there will be no other than spilling that truth out, and that is positive.

4.  Preparation- Preparation for  reading is as important as the reading itself. Weather you do simple meditation, grounding, clearing and clensing, exc. Small things can make a great difference. 

If you have something that gets you in the reading mentality make sure you allow yourself to do it before starting reading.

5.  Engage and exchange- Many readers get troubled when it comes to getting paid for readings. 

This is important thing to determine when and if you decide to sell your readings. 

If you decide to give readings for free that is great but what if you are afraid to put a price on your work. Many face that fear, I know I have. You may get asked why you ask for money in exchange for reading, before you explain,  you have to know the answer yourself. Is it for the time you are investing? Or are you saving some extra money for that trip you want to go on? Or is this your full time job?

There is much more you can explore. These are some basics to get you started. If you have any questions post them int he comments or pop over on facebook and send me a message :D

Hello love,  

I'll be honest I love free flowing readings but I can't give up my spreads. I still collect them and adore them. It's such a beautiful form of divination. If you are working with spreads and are just dipping your fingers into the free flow stuff, this is for you.  It can be hard to leave something you are so comfortable with, but as the saying goes ˝Life begins at the end of your comfort zone˝.  That said I want to present to you some things that may rise up when you start doing this work. As with all things you will get better as you practice. 

So let's begin, pull a few cards out on the table. First you may choose to pull just one card at this point I would encourage to you to try pulling two to three cards. 

At the beginning it may be hard to get what each card position  is telling you. At this time you probably already think  that you can't do it or that you can't get the meanings from the cards. 

Don't panic, allow yourself to relax.  

Look at each card individually and see what each is trying to tell you. 

When you are doing this make sure you listen to what you are guided towards. 

If you feel that the card is talking about the past and the card next to it has advice on dealing with that past issue  and the third card talks about how to heal from that  issue in the first card exc. Go with it, these are all clues to help you guide the reading.  If  you are very structured and organized by nature it may come hard and it may take more time to go with the flow and do something unexpected. 

On the other hand if you are free spirit you may have easier time adjusting yourself to free style. What I would say  is the most important thing to remeber is your connection to the cards. 

Having intuitive connection with the cards is amazing anyway but if you are trying to do the free style it could be helpful to explore this area.  When I tried to do  free style readings for the first time I had hard time but I just went from card to card for  meaning, and then tied them together and give a cohesive reading.   I can't give you a ˝HOW TO˝ guide for this beacuse there isn't one, this is a free flowing process personal to each indiidual. Things like pathworking, meditation, crystals exc.  may help. Do you! Use things that you know work for you. It takes practice and patience and remember that we are all different and everyone will have different approach and everyone will  learn it differently. Free style readings may or may not be you cup of tea, and if they are not you don't have to worry there is much more you can explore and return to this topic later.  

Much love xoxo